To All The Desi's - Where are We ?

I was sitting in my patio and thinking about the Desi Dream in the USA , Was it that we just followed the herd or did we plan it all the way .How many of us did know any history about the school's we came in for our Higher Education. All we cared was the I20's and the Financial Assistance ( I am writing this in general) . Whenever I heard about USA - The Land of opportunity i thought that its the freedom to do what you like is important.

BUT DO YOU THINK WE ARE REALLY FREE ? First the H1B , then the green card process , by the time you are settled in our legal status's we already have kids and start thinking about their college funds , mortgages, etc .. and the fire and passion to do what we really like is gone . So now tell me where did it all start going wrong . When I was in college for my MS , there was a student in my class , A 45 Year man worked in a Oil company for 20 years then got bored left the job and joined the Masters Program , that was my perception of "Land Of Opportunities" and not working for a employer or an organization just so that they file your green card .Sometimes I feel the complacency will get us through this , and all these thoughts will be expunged automatically .

When was the last time we took an day off from work and did what we like the most , I speak to lot of Desi's on this issue and most of them have told me that they check their e-mails at least 3 times on their holiday's ( and I mean weekdays and not weekends) , I feel guilty when i take a day off to relax and unwind , i think this attitude is in·grained in us from our childhood seeing our parents work for 20 years doing their mundane jobs without cribbing about it . I never saw my mother taking a day off and do nothing " just a day off to unwind" in all her 30 years of her carrer.

Back to square one -- to all the desi's outside India -- Where are We ?